" 1.8% of children in the U.S. have a diagnosis of autism, a rate that has more than doubled over the past two decades. A recent study, partly funded by Autism Speaks, found that in families with one or more children with ASD, the chances that a baby sibling will develop autism are much higher than previously thought. In fact, the odds were around one in five, or 20 percent."



I have met many families who have been affected by autism but my dear friend Melissa, who I have known since our junior high days, is the first family I have known to be affected twice. Two of Melissa's grandchildren, sweet Jason and precious Lily have austism ...they both belong to Melissa's gorgeous second son, Brandon and his beautiful wife Ashley, who I photographed their wedding for..I also photographed Jason and Lily well before autism reared it's head and became a part of their daily life... 
IMG_2848-Edit-EditIMG_2848-Edit-Edit IMG_9155IMG_9155 IMG_9056-EditIMG_9056-Edit

IMG_5446-Edit-EditIMG_5446-Edit-Edit IMG_5573-Edit-EditIMG_5573-Edit-Edit

I ran across this quote--" I am beautiful, not broken. Different, not less. Challenged, not challenging. Overwhelmed, not spoiled. Autism is not a choice, however, acceptance is."

I love it.

But at the end of the day I am not these young parents with this HUGE weight to carry though and most likely you aren't like them either.

I had five children and it hurt to see my babies find their wings as they were meant to and leave the nest....But what if you had children that weren't capable of finding their wings at the time when most children do? What if your babies needed you 24 hours a day with an unsure ending in sight??

Some people carry burdens heavier than anything we ourselves will ever know. Some people will never know the blessing of completely healthy children...but some people will never know the blessing of a child at all.

Be grateful for what you have and who you have at the end of the day. Empathy is putting yourself in someone else's shoes and feeling what they feel.

We need more of that.


Melissa has been blessed with four beautiful grandchildren and you can feel the love she has for all of them. It's palpable. And I couldn't love her or her family more for that. Not all of us are blessed with that kind of unconditional acceptance.

I wish we were.

Love, Nancy Roxanne

IMG_5280-Edit-EditIMG_5280-Edit-Edit
IMG_5309-Edit-EditIMG_5309-Edit-Edit IMG_5164-Edit-EditIMG_5164-Edit-Edit
IMG_5414-Edit-Edit-EditIMG_5414-Edit-Edit-Edit IMG_5200-Edit-Edit-EditIMG_5200-Edit-Edit-Edit IMG_5185-Edit-EditIMG_5185-Edit-Edit IMG_5520-Edit-EditIMG_5520-Edit-Edit IMG_5339-Edit-EditIMG_5339-Edit-Edit IMG_5450-Edit-EditIMG_5450-Edit-Edit
IMG_5360-Edit-EditIMG_5360-Edit-Edit IMG_5518-Edit-Edit-EditIMG_5518-Edit-Edit-Edit IMG_5183-Edit-EditIMG_5183-Edit-Edit IMG_5572-Edit-EditIMG_5572-Edit-Edit IMG_5525-Edit-EditIMG_5525-Edit-Edit
IMG_5301-Edit-EditIMG_5301-Edit-Edit IMG_5565-Edit-EditIMG_5565-Edit-Edit IMG_5388-Edit-Edit-EditIMG_5388-Edit-Edit-Edit